Those things with which we identify ourselves are not my Self.
I have a relationship with them. I have a use for them. Okay? But they are not me. I should maintain the relationship well. I should imbue that relationship with love, but I must remember that there is some "other" who is without titles, without conditioning, without any psychological conditioning, without a name, without being tall or short. Is the spirit of an ant the size of an ant, and is the spirit of an elephant the size of an elephant? Is a man with a big body a great man or is he just a big man? Now I'm coming to this body with which you identify ourselves. The difference between this body and the Self also is that difference between a big man and a great man.
We said, okay, all of those conditions are not ourselves. You
say, "Well this is myself." Now I ask you: "Which one of you of those "I's" were you referring to you, please?" See, at present, I have not said what my view of the "self" is. I'm just examining the prevalent views of the "self." you say, "I." May I ask you which one of "you" are you, please, referring to?
"There's just me. No. Well, there was that one, a tiny speck like a minute jellyfish stuck to the walls of a mother's uterus. And whatever rudimentary awareness it had, it said, "I," not in words, but it knew of itself as a being. There was one that looked like a frog. There was one that looked like a fish. There was one that came out of the mother's womb crying to the three worlds. There was one at the age of five, in my case, who spoke no English, and you were quite adamant about that one being you. And at that time, if someone said to you at age thirty . . . .
"Whatever is he talking about? Thirty, that is so far away." How do you know what I'll do at age thirty?" And the mother said, "Well, I know. I've been through the experience." "Ah, yes. They all say those things." So all right? So there's that one. Or there is that one who, sixty years from now, or make it one hundred and sixty if you prefer, lies on the deathbed, and that one also says "I." "This is the one that I am, now – not the one who had rosy cheeks and bright eyes at age sixteen." Tell me, please, which one of "you" are you referring to. Which one do you identify with?