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Gateway to the Himalayan Yoga Tradition

Lead an Exalted Life as a Sovereign

Teaching through silence occurs only where the teacher and the student both take each other for granted, when there are no doubts, no questions about the relationship. There are no if's, but's and conditions. It's just there. It is as clear a fact as that you see with your eyes or hear with your ears. Those, for example, who I consider to be really close, I don't feel the need to call them or reassure them, or support them, nor do they feel a dependency.

The teacher-student relationship, the guru-disciple relationship cannot develop, cannot exist if there's a dependency. A dependence means an emotional dependency: somebody will uphold me, somebody will reassure me, somebody will remind me. You have already made a commitment to search for knowledge. You have already made a commitment that in this life or in the next life, somewhere, you are going to be enlightened as to the nature of your spiritual Self and to the nature of God. It is in the way you know when you have a child that you are going to be taking care of him. It's not even that articulate. It's like a child, an infant, who, without knowing it, knows that "If I cry I'm going to get nursed." It's that sure. It's so sure. There's no conscious reflection about it, no arguments are needed. No logic is needed. God is a permanent fixture in your heart, and you are a permanent fixture in God's house. And whatever else you have to do, you have to do. But through all of that this one theme remains.

[In the teacher-student relationship] Even though you have to carry on with your daily life and your duties and necessities - yet all through that there runs this stream of a different awareness, a different presence, which is always there. Throughout all these activities the presence is taken for granted. It is that kind of relationship. [It's like] you don't need to ask, "Do you love me, God?" or, "Do I love God?" The love is just a pure stream, and it must constantly purify you. It just is. Its presence must constantly run through you. Its awareness must always be there.

You don't need a juxtaposition. Some people need a juxtaposition, a separation to prove to themselves that they love each other... These are dependencies. It is not love. Love is that stream which never waxes, never wanes. Sometimes you do not even feel its ripples as being separate from yourself. I do not know if the ocean feels its own waves. Do you feel your hair growing? Does the ocean feel its waves rising? It's the same thing.

A large number of people who come to the teaching, come to the teaching out of an emotional need, an emotional emptiness. There is something missing in life, and they want to find it. And they think, "Well, I might find it in meditation." And then from meditation they think they might find it in the Meditation Center. And then they see that there is no community here. "No one upholds me. No one lifts me up."

There are two elements to this: One is what the Center's leadership discusses: How to make people feel at home. But the other side is that you have a home. If you want to feel at home, feel at home at home. Here you come for silence, and not for gaining recognition, not for gaining respect, not for social status, not for someone to come and receive you, not for someone to give you a very warm goodbye - "We'll miss you." That the leadership should do these things is another matter. They should. But from the meditator's point of view, it's there [that] you come, you sit, you meditate. What else is there? The Meditation Center is for meditation! It's not a social club. Meditation is an experience of solitude. You come for solitude. And it should be like a forest. The trees don't greet you or ask, "Who's going to sit under my shade?"